Morningside on Colby Blvd around the corner from Trader Joe's,
here in Indianapolis, is an assisted living center
of lovely people. There is where my friend and teacher,
my spirited supporter Joyce lives. I missed a group meeting
Saturday due to a seriously congested sinus cavity... The below is
last Saturday's discussion transcribed.


The most creative power given to human spirit is the power to heal the
wounds of a past it cannot change.
We do our forgiving alone inside our hearts and minds.
What happens to the people we forgive depends on them.
The first person to benefit from Forgiving is the onewho does it.
Forgiving happens in 3 stages.
We rediscover the humanity of the person who wronged us,
we surrender the humanity of the person who wronged us,
we surrender our right to get even and we wish that person well
We forgive people only for what they do, never for what they are!

We forgive people only for wounding and wronging us; do not forgive
people for things we do not blame them for --

I cannot forgive a wrong unless I first blame the person who wronged me.

Forgiving is a journey; the deeper the wound,
the longer the journey.

Forgiving does not require us to reunite with the person who broke our trust.
We do not forgive because we are supposed to; we forgive when we are ready to be
healed.

Waiting for someone to repent before we forgive is to surender our future to the person
who wronged us.

Forgiving is not a way to avoid pain, is to Heal pain.

Forgiving someone who breaks a trust does not mean that we give him his job back.
Forgiving is a way to be fair to ourselves.

Forgivers are not doormats; to forgive a person is not a signal that we are
willing to put up with what he does.

We do not excuse the person we forgive,
Forgiving is essential; talking about it is optional.

When we forgive, we set a prisoner free and discover
that the prisoner we set free is US

When we forgive we walk to stride with the forgiving God and Goddess.

The Lord is slow to anger
Forgive the transgression but by no means clearing the guilty.